Even in the early days of our relationship, he has never been able to satisfy me. I feel like sex with him is a race, and the one who orgasms first is the winner, the loser gets nothing, and the winner is always him. I struggle to orgasm through penetrative sex, and I need other forms of sexual contact to get me in the mood. As soon as he has reached his peak, his participation in an intimate night together is over. I often find myself lying in the dark after sex, fuming with sexual frustration, as he falls into a peaceful sleep. But he has only done it for me twice, and the second time it was only for a couple of minutes. I have tried to talk to him in the past, but he got offended, and it resulted in an argument. I will have to start all over again as a blank slate. It could take me years to find someone, climb the relationship ladder, and get married. Reading your letter reminded me of a film that came out a couple of years ago, a comedy called Don Jon.

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Hi Polly,. After that, we broke up for a few weeks and I started seeing a relationship counselor. I need your advice! My boyfriend is kind, smart, forgiving, loyal. Like him, I love kids and want a family. One of my biggest concerns is our sex life. We rarely have sex. From the beginning of the relationship, he would have difficulty getting an erection at times.
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I'm really hoping someone can give me some kind of input on a situation in my relationship that feel completely at a loss about. We've been together nearly three years I am 30, he is almost Compared to my previous relationships I've always found our sex life a little odd. With my previous boyfriends we always did it at least a few times a week, they would never turn me down, would pester me for sex when I didn't want to - and they always seemed happy to be doing it. I have a wonderful, close and loving relationship with my current boyfriend. But there is a real issue with sexual intimacy - I've been teling myself that it's a minor thing and I can deal with it, but the truth is that it's starting to become a problem.